Travelling together strengthens relationships. Couples who travel together are significantly more satisfied with their relationships, enjoying better sex and improved romance long after the trip ends .They have healthier, happier relationships compared to those who do not travel together
Key factors that strengthen the relationships in travel are:
The compromise
Relationships are all about compromise and in travelling it is inevitable because travel forces you to evaluate and make agreements on the most mundane and absurd parts of your daily life.It is that acceptance of your partner’s habits that can enable you to compromise and may help sustain your relationship.
Fighting
Its impossible not to fight because fighting sometimes is the only way to clear the air and become stronger. Life on the road has a way of bringing issues to the surface faster than stationery life does.
Problem solving
Crazy mishaps happen on the road, and you will have to solve those problems together. You’ll get lost in a scary part of a town; one of you will hurt themselves, etc.
Co-dependence/ carving out space.
When you spend every waking hour with one person, you develop a weird co-dependence that even the most clingiest couples at home can’t pull off.Travel forces you to negotiate that flexibility which is important both on and off the road.
Awesomeness
Having someone to share with life changing events and really funny stories away on a private escapade is just awesome. Furthermore, its all about getting to do amazing things with your lover and having someone to hold in those beautiful nights
To be in company even with the best, is sometimes tiresome and dissipating. I strongly believe that the expression of love can be found in both attachment to and detachment from our partners. Sometimes our lovers may need time with themselves and may be, the greatest gift we can give them is that of complete autonomy. This will enable them to pursue activities and interests that we happen not to share hence reducing the times we may disagree over unshared interests. Though sometimes travelling alone can be an issue in many relationships especially if one partner is the flirting and ‘always’ single type. However, when you set the precedent in your relationship that it’s okay to pursue individual interests, trust is enhanced. Absence too makes the heart grow fonder. That makes travelling alone once in a while refreshing for a couple and also appreciation of your partner’s presence as only when the well runs dry the waters are missed.Travelling in solitude is also empowering. It makes you better and smarter. A successful solo vacation can inspire you to tackle even more things in life you’ve been afraid to try and you can agree with me that this empowerment can initiate a positive turn in your relationship.
Gray’s Oak Hotel is situated just 2.5 Kilometres from Kitengela along the Namanga road,about 26 Kilometres from Nairobi.The hotel will make your stay a comfortable and relaxing experience,within the vibrancy of the capital.It offers 37 elegantly furnished rooms,equipped wit en-suite bathrooms and Wi-fi internet access.The rooms feature flat screen tvs, tea and coffee making facilities,safety deposit boxes and study tables.
Delicious buffet-style breakfast is served in the spacious dining area,and also lovely African dishes for dinner.A comfy bar is situated on the third floor,with comprehensive alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks available.There’s also a beautiful swimming pool within seating around it,ideal for a lazy afternoon.You can’t afford to miss this for the Easter holiday.
Try it out with you partner and believe me you won’t regret.
Whether it’s a week long vacation or just a few days, travel is a major test to see how your relationship and communication skills works when you are together 24/7 and dealing with unpredictable circumstances. This is particularly true in romantic relationships, which are all about learning how to live and work with each other. Pressure builds up and you can not only reveal your compatibility as a dating couple, but ultimately how you will relate as a married couple and can also tell you what you need to know about the other person and how (or if) you’ll have fun and solve problems together. One high-stress trip can result in a relationship flame out or the discovery of true love.
If you’ve ever gone on a romantic trip with a significant person, you may agree with me that the vacations often end up much less romantic than you had anticipated because of a few small things:
Taking the vacation too early in the relationship
It is quite demanding to spend 24 hours a day for 7 or more days together, especially when sharing a common space, such as a hotel room.
A good start off is that of small weekend trips prior to planning long vacations.
Budgeting
Budgeting is eminently important on vacations. Everyone wants vacations to be all about having fun. Going shopping, hiring a car, and even dining at niche restaurants each night. But if you are constantly arguing about finances and what is or is not affordable, then the entire trip will be a waste of time. To avoid this problem, simply put a little time into planning ahead. You can try and pre-pay for the main requirements of the trip: the flight, the hotel, the rental car and the day tours.
Lovemaking
Sex makes everything complicated as we all know. On a romantic trip, it can get worse mainly because of the ideals projected about such trips by society and the media. According to these sources, when you are on a romantic trip you should be shagging on every surface at all times of the day. However, this can be rather hard to cope up with. If you spend a day having fun together, and you are exhausted when you get to the hotel room, you should both feel free to go to sleep. You have the entire trip to spend time together. Don’t rush into it and please don’t ever try to force the mood on your partner. It just won’t work and it will probably make things even worse.
Flirting and talking to fellow travellers.
This can be another big issue. Of course we all love to claim that when we are in love with someone we have eyes only for them. Unfortunately that is just not true. When travelling you are probably going to run across attractive people .Chat with them, perhaps flirt a little and at the same time introduce them to your significant other. Keep things light and the conversation easy.
Travel styles.
Travelling is all about give and give in a relationship. If the goal is to enjoy one another’s company, then you are going to have to work on compromises. Be willing to try new things. Keep an open mind about each other’s need for adventures. Also don’t be afraid to break away from each other sometimes. It is okay for you to go to the mall while he goes to the museum. A little time apart can be valuable. You will both get some fresh stories and perspectives to share with each other when you are together again.
Overtime, bill payments among couples/spouses has been a debatable issue. Often, women peg this issue with culture, thereby arguing out that men should cater for everything when out for fun. But ladies, don’t you think that’s a bit oppressing to men? Let’s make life simple for our men. If you have invited your partner for a retreat /travel,that means you should cater for everything as the host. Am sure your man will love it and the next time he asks you out he will clear the bills happily too, to make things easier. However, if the guest partner is taking a lot of expensive stuff while you, (the host) are not, then the guest partner should also bring in some cash.
Although, it will first of all depend on how you guys decided to go out. If there were no agreements on who should take care of the bills and you cannot afford to pay for your partner, assume that the bill will be split and ask for separate bills or you can pay and figure out how much your partner owes you. Nevertheless, it is always best to agree on this BEFORE you get down to any business especially when it comes to meals because they can really consume good cash. But there’s nothing wrong with a partner grabbing the bill and surprising the other by paying, especially he/she has more money or wants to thank/congratulate the other.
Having talked about all that, I cannot afford to forget the men’s pride. Some men don’t like it when their women cater for their bills. They want to cater for everything even when they cannot afford, just to maintain their male superiority. Men, you should understand that when a woman offers to clear the bills, it’s a sign of love and care. Superiority should be kept aside. As for the women, if you have such a man, make him understand that in love it should be all about sharing responsibilities and helping each other out when things aren’t working out.
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