Archive | April 2014

KONSHENS LIVE IN NAIROBI

Konshens dancehall     Konshens, the dance-hall sensation is on his way to Kenya courtesy of Guiness. He will be the main act at the Guiness Evolution Party slated for April 12 at the KICC starting from 7PM.

Other entertainers in action that day include Wyre, Jua Cali, Habida, Ken Wa Maria with DJ Kris Darlin as the MC and DJ Joe Mfalme on the 1s and 2s.

Entry is 500 bob only.

Come with your partner and friends and enjoy the night with dance-hall music.

DRINK RESPONSIBLY. Alcohol is not for sale to persons under 18 years.

 

Mollie E

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

This entry was posted on April 9, 2014, in dating.

Who should pay?

 

 

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Overtime, bill payments among couples/spouses has been a debatable issue. Often, women peg this issue with culture, thereby arguing out that men should cater for everything when out for fun. But ladies, don’t you think that’s a bit oppressing to men? Let’s make life simple for our men. If you have invited your partner for a retreat /travel,that means you should cater for everything as the host. Am sure your man will love it and the next time he asks you out he will clear the bills happily too, to make things easier. However, if the guest partner is taking a lot of expensive stuff while you, (the host) are not, then the guest partner should also bring in some cash.

Although, it will first of all depend on how you guys decided to go out. If there were no agreements on who should take care of the bills and you cannot afford to pay for your partner, assume that the bill will be split and ask for separate bills or you can pay and figure out how much your partner owes you. Nevertheless, it is always best to agree on this BEFORE you get down to any business especially when it comes to meals because they can really consume good cash. But there’s nothing wrong with a partner grabbing the bill and surprising the other by paying, especially he/she has more money or wants to thank/congratulate the other.

Having talked about all that, I cannot afford to forget the men’s pride. Some men don’t like it when their women cater for their bills. They want to cater for everything even when they cannot afford, just to maintain their male superiority. Men, you should understand that when a woman offers to clear the bills, it’s a sign of love and care. Superiority should be kept aside. As for the women, if you have such a man, make him understand that in love it should be all about sharing responsibilities and helping each other out when things aren’t working out.

 

Hellen . M.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

David Beckham talks about family life and football…

He MAY be a worldwide famous footballer, but it seems that David Beckham much prefers being a stay-at-home dad.

 

The 38-year-old star has admitted that he loves being a house husband and looking after his four children following his retirement from sport.Whilst his wife of 14 years, Victoria, has been busy carving out a career as a fashion designer, David has been able to spend a lot more time with his brood – especially now that they’re all living back in London.Speaking during an appearance on ‘The Jonathan Ross Show’, David answered positively when asked if he was like a house husband.”I really am. But I love it,” he said. “I’ve been lucky, I’ve always been able to take the boys to school in the mornings and pick them up and make them dinner and things like that. So I do even more of that.

“I’m able to take all three of the boys to school and then I take Harper to her school for a few hours and then pick her up. I’m kind of like a driver at the moment, I’m always in the car.”

Following David’s retirement, the Beckham’s decided to move back to the Capital after their rather long stint in LA.

“We’ve been here since last December, David said. “We moved back because we wanted the boys to be educated in London and we’re loving it. I haven’t lived in London for a long, long time. So, to actually spend time here, to do the normal things like go to the pub with my mates, something I’ve not been able to do, is great.”

The former LA Galaxy player is often seen spending quality time with his two-year-old daughter Harper – and admits that she’s already somewhat of a fashionista.

David admits that after having three sons and then a daughter, he’s noticed that there’s one big difference between boys and girls: “Getting dressed in a morning.””I’m quite organised in a morning, I have my clothes ready, but Harper does exactly the same thing,” he explained.”She gets her outfit ready the night before, and then she gets up in the morning, we go down to get her ready and she changes her mind. So then, by this time, we’re in a rush.”The boys are arguing over what breakfast they want, and I’m trying to get them ready as well. But then I’m in the room with Harper trying to pick out outfits and anything which I pick out, which I think looks great, she puts back in. She’s two and a half.

“She just says, ‘No.’ But anything that she picks out, she looks amazing in, so it’s easy,” he added.Due to having four children and such a hectic lifestyle, David revealed that it’s difficult for him and Victoria to make time for date nights.”We try, but looking after four kids, getting them to school in a morning, picking them up, taking them to football, feeding them, getting them into bed, by the time we’ve finished with that we’re exhausted,” he said. “So we get in bed and watch TV and that’s our time to talk.”Despite not even being 40 yet, David says retiring was the correct decision to make.”I always said to myself that some time in my career I would stop playing, and that I’d know the right time,” he explained.

“Paris came in for me and said, ‘Would you like to come and play in Paris for six months,’ and I just felt that was the right time. I knew when I was going to Paris that was going to be it.”

This shows us that a sports person can still make time for their family despite all odds. One just has to be organized to make sure that it happens.

Agnes .K.

 

 

Homosexuality in Kenyan Prisons

 

Prisoners at a Kenyan prison

Homosexual rape is rife in prisons in Kenya and Zanzibar.

For the first time, victims talk about their experiences in a shocking indictment of neglect and violence.

It is a nightmare for anyone, anywhere, to find themselves in a police car on their way to prison.

But many think that in jail there is protection around the clock, not knowing that prison may be more dangerous than the life they left behind.

One man told the BBC he was raped within hours of the gates closing behind him at Kamiti Maximum Security Prison, where he was jailed for five years for robbery.

“They were fighting over me, they were fighting over who should get me first,” he said.

“I just had to wait until the fight was won and then be raped by the winners.”

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Another young man,(name withheld) was jailed for three years for the theft of a bicycle.

It was his first offence and within hours he had been gang raped.

“They took me to a cell – they were huge people and I was very little and young,” he said.

 

Sometimes the person wants to show power, to have power over another prisoner Chena, prison leader in Zanzibar

“They invited me to share their supper. I agreed, thinking they were good people. I did not know they had put sleeping pills in the food.

“After supper, I went into a very deep sleep. I was unconscious. That’s what they wanted – that’s when they raped me.” This kind of story is commonplace.

Male rape happens in many prisons around the world. What makes it different in East Africa is that attitudes to homosexuality in society generally mean that this terrible problem is never acknowledged, never spoken about, even by the victims.

It is denied by officials – and by society at large.

‘Sexual needs’

The deputy officer in charge of Kamiti Prison, Pite Nguguna, told the BBC there was no abuse at all there.

“We don’t have rape in prisons,” he said.

“We have never had a rape case reported while prisoners are serving their jail terms.

“Maybe there was an encounter with somebody, maybe, who was homosexual.

“But homosexuality itself is a very secretive kind of activity, so for the authorities it’s not known to us.”

So, plenty of proof on one side, and plenty of denial on the other.

Given that most African cultures do not entertain homosexuality, what else encourages rape in these African male prisons?

“Prisoners are just human beings,” said Emmanuel Wetangula, a lawyer in one of Kenya’s leading law firms.

“They do have sexual needs which they have to attend to. They do not get conjugal visits from their wives or girlfriends.”

‘Fresh’

Mr Wetangula knows the structure of prisons facilities in Kenya, and he is of the opinion that congestion in the prisons might be one of the reasons for the increase of rape in male prisons – since the warders cannot get proper access to all the cells in the prison.

He explained that the biggest problem is that prison conditions have various categories and cartels.

So when a new prisoner arrives, he is actually seen to be different from the rest of the prisoners – and deemed “fresh.”

“It commonly happens among the newcomers, the new entrants into prison,” he added.

 Chena- a prison leader in a Zanzibar prison, and who has been in and out of jail several times for robbery.

‘Strong’

He told the BBC that there were a number of reasons why rape goes on.

“Sometimes it might be lust – plain sexual gratification,” he said.

“Sometimes the person wants to show power, to have power over another prisoner. Sometimes by raping a fellow prisoner, that person can make even the warders fear them.”

He added that this was the case with himself – although he denies he has actually been a rapist himself.

“They fear me,” he said.

“I might look small to you, but I am strong – very strong. I fear nobody.

“I can rape, I can do whatever I want to anybody, and no-one will dare question me.

“That is power.”

In certain instances, senior sergeants in charge of accommodation arrange, at a fee, to transfer a prisoner to a particular cell for sex. The inmates who arrange and pay for the transfer become the mende i.e the husband while the transferred prisoner is the mtoto, the wife. The mende provides for all the needs of the mtoto , who remains a sexual tool. George, a young boy in his late teens, was serving an eight-year jail term for armed robbery. One Saturday some inmates invited him to an evening meal of porridge and beans. Owing to starvation, the temptation was too great. He accepted. Little did he know that the meal was drugged. he ate and became intoxicated. In the night, he was repeatedly gang-sodomised. He bled profusely, until he was unconscious. At Kamiti, a warder is always right even when he tramples on a prisoner, who has no right. One Saturday afternoon, a condemned prisoner, Onkoba, was suffering from pneumonia.He insisted on staying in the sun a little longer than the warder was willing to allow. The warder blew the whistle and the alarm went off. Warders armed themselves with rungus, machetes, and spears and rushed to Condemn `G’, where Onkoba was heartlessly beaten, cut all over the body and left for dead.

i therefore appeal to the government to review current policies and their enforcements i the interest of human rights to make Kenyan prisons to be humane.

also watch the videos from https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NF2ydxNwrZU

 

Zuhura .M.

 

 

My man- LOVE me more

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I used to think that a lady should be the one to love more in a relationship until I found myself being alone most often. This doesnt mean that men should do it more but it also does not mean that I should not love him at all, but he should desire me…want me…adore me…cherish me…and love me deeper.

I want a love like those in the soap operas. I want him to be my Alejandro and me his Luciana.

When a man loves you more, he will do so much to ensure that the relationship lasts for a very long long time and it  works out. You will be his queen, practically his everything and you will always be put first in his life.

In a relationship, it is so hard for people to love equally this is because one will always love the other a little bit more. I tried to analyze my past relationships more and I realized that I have been the one loving and caring more. I give double and receive like 20% from him. This explained why most of them left apart from a few who I knew only wanted “fun” with me that I dumped.

Honestly speaking, I have never really felt so much wanted, loved, desired or cherished, relationship after relationship. I have never been their priority till one day…

I met him and he loves me more than I love him. He is not scared to show my friends he is the one all over me. He will always communicate with me even when I am avoiding him. I thought he was being too much but I came to realize that he loves me more than I love him. These assurance makes me love him back even though at first I did not love him. Him fighting for our love is making our relationship work out just fine.

My man should love me more than I love him because this is the only way he will be all into me.

 

Mollie E