Times have changed

Visit a club he frequents and flirt with him

Ladies! Times have changed.  You can now dance with that cute guy without having to wait in the sidelines while every other girl dances with him. It’s no longer a taboo to ask him out or tell him you are interested.We are encouraged as ladies to be proactive and since it’s 2014, we actually are!

There is this myth that chasing a man shows you are desperate, but it’s only true if you do it the wrong way. So, yes, show him you like him! Below are some ways of how to chase a man and not scare him away:-

1. Ask him out

A man will notice you if you are bold enough to ask him out. It ain’t desperation but rather it shows confidence. Women know what and who they want. Just make sure the the outing is a “casual affair”. That way, if he doesn’t seem interested when you are out on a “date,” it won’t feel like a real date and so less embarrassment for you. Besides, not many women go this route so you will stand out from the crowd.

2. Get his number

If you see that guy you like, get his number and don’t be shy. Many times a man won’t think a woman is interested. If you ask for his digits, he doesn’t have to guess. But remember not to give him your number. Be in control of the situation,so take his.

3. Contact him

Having his number means the ball is in your court, but, don’t call him right away. Give it 2 to 3 days then send him a text or call him at a decent hour(evening time on a weekday is the best). If he responds, good, if he doesn’t give it a few more days. If he still doesn’t contact you, you have a choice to try and contact him again or let it go. A second call or text and no answer means he is not into you and that is when you now delete his number.

4. Hang around him

If you are the shy type of woman and you can’t ask him out or get his number, hang around him. Let him see you in his environment by going to a club he frequents. This way you can chat, flirt, and give him clear signs you are interested without scaring him half to death. Keep it cool, don’t show up every week because he may think you are stalking him. If he doesn’t ask you out after hanging out a handful of times, it is time to be bolder.

5. Just tell him

Tell him how you feel and wait for his response. It’s as easy as that. Don’t send him a text declaring your feelings of like rather you need to express it face-to-face so as to see his reactions. If he says he is into you, move forward but if he is vague, it’s not the best sign. Remember, just because a man doesn’t say no, it doesn’t mean yes. He may want to play around with your feelings and hurt you. Be sure to know what his reactions or responses mean. If you keep on professing your feelings repeatedly to him, it will make you the desperate girl that needs his love and yet you are not.

 

Mollie E